I prefer #horror usually, but I'm for mixing it up. I do prefer to keep the bodice-ripping to a minimum, for my comfort in participating.
True. But making #boundaries clear up front in #roleplaying is part of the key to maximizing the enjoyment for everyone.
Some games use a rating like movies. I prefer #lines and #veils, because they allow for finer tuning.
https://rpg.stackexchange.com/questions/30906/what-do-the-terms-lines-and-veils-mean